It’s not easy to end a relationship…any relationship. Even the ones where you just can’t wait to get away from the other person…it’s still hard to break up with them. The Break up is probably the hardest part of most relationships…especially if one of you still has feelings for the other. Still, you’re not doing yourself or your partner any favors by spreading the pain of the break up over weeks or months as you pony up the courage to finally just “say it”.
There are several DOs and DON’Ts when Breaking Up with another person. Let’s cover the DON’Ts first.
- Don’t break up over email/phone/txt – Be a Man (or Woman) and do it face to face. Sending a break up message via email or txting, or calling your partner on the phone is not only cheap and weasily, it also sends a message to this person that you used to love (or at least like) that not only do you not want them anymore, but that they don’t even matter enough for you to look them in the eye…or that you’re a coward. One of the two.
- Don’t be mean for no reason - If you’re trying to hurt this person, then you’ve come to the wrong place. There is no reason to pour salt in open wounds. If you’re not able to get along with this person anymore, than you need to tell them that. Try to keep it as civil as possible. The cleaner, and more polite, the break, the easier it will be on both of you. There is no reason to create some or more bitterness between the two of you.
- Don’t play the blame-game – There are faults on both sides of the relationship. There always are. No one is perfect, and there is no reason for you to waist time and energy blaming one another.
Now let’s look a few Dos.
- Do Meet Face to Face – Find someplace quiet. A restaurant if you’re not comfortable being at home…but not a bar, or other noisy place. The calmer the environment, the better.
- Do Keep It Simple – Try not to ramble, or fill uncomfortable silence with babble. Just get it over with.
- Do Make it Clean – Don’t leave lingring up of a reunion if you don’t think that’s going to happen. Make the break a clean one, so that both of you can move on to new relationships
There is nothing wrong with a relationship not working out. It happens everyday. The key is to know when it is over, and to make moving on as easy as possible.