Comments on: How to Control Your Jealousy http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/ analyzing lifestyles Mon, 24 Oct 2011 12:40:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Who new http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-566367 Who new Mon, 19 Sep 2011 11:56:07 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-566367 Me and my girlfriend were together a little over a year and at first I had trouble adjusting to the relationship thing. I really cared for her but it seemed like the women from my past kept on following me and I'd get caught talking to these women when I shouldn't have but I never cheated and I then decided that I loved my girlfriend and that I was being nothing but faithful to her. Then towards our year and I half mark I hear her on the phone with a guy but when she gets of she say without me asking it was her cousion which is a girl so I had suspicions and I called the number back and sure enough it was her ex boyfriend I was stunned and I broke up with her I then made up a story about me being sexually with a girl to fish more out of her and it turns out that there was two other guys and one she actually cheated on me with in the back of a car before this I didn't care if she went out with her friends and party I had no issues with none of that cause she got all my trust. Now we have got back together and all I do is check her phone and make comments for the most part we have worked it out and everything is good but now I have become jelouse. Am I wrong for telling here that I don't want her doing cretin things if she wants to be with me. Why would she beg for me back but had some type of relation with three guys why we were together? Me and my girlfriend were together a little over a year and at first I had trouble adjusting to the relationship thing. I really cared for her but it seemed like the women from my past kept on following me and I’d get caught talking to these women when I shouldn’t have but I never cheated and I then decided that I loved my girlfriend and that I was being nothing but faithful to her. Then towards our year and I half mark I hear her on the phone with a guy but when she gets of she say without me asking it was her cousion which is a girl so I had suspicions and I called the number back and sure enough it was her ex boyfriend I was stunned and I broke up with her I then made up a story about me being sexually with a girl to fish more out of her and it turns out that there was two other guys and one she actually cheated on me with in the back of a car before this I didn’t care if she went out with her friends and party I had no issues with none of that cause she got all my trust. Now we have got back together and all I do is check her phone and make comments for the most part we have worked it out and everything is good but now I have become jelouse. Am I wrong for telling here that I don’t want her doing cretin things if she wants to be with me. Why would she beg for me back but had some type of relation with three guys why we were together?

]]> By: jaanu http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-534821 jaanu Wed, 06 Jul 2011 13:17:22 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-534821 i m in long term relation right now, almost 6 yrs but i m not happy becoz my husband thinks i m jealousy but its not true , our problem is my husband have affair with someone. Everytime he cheated, lieing with me. i don't want this life but what shall i do . i love him too much, we have 2babies, i can't live live without him. i am insecure about him. i m in long term relation right now, almost 6 yrs but i m not happy becoz my husband thinks i m jealousy but its not true , our problem is my husband have affair with someone. Everytime he cheated, lieing with me. i don’t want this life but what shall i do . i love him too much, we have 2babies, i can’t live live without him. i am insecure about him.

]]> By: pravallika http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-521429 pravallika Fri, 10 Jun 2011 11:24:19 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-521429 Hi! actually my problem is very small think but i am taking it as a huge thing i need someones support bcoz i dont feel to share with any of my frnds. actually my problem is "I have a brother and i introduced my frnd to him,after that that girl made my brother like a selfish person,like he stoped thinking of anybody else,and before that (intoduction of girl) he liked me so much, but now he even dont respect my words he brings her to his home,without my permission and my parents after knowing it disliked him,and they stopped me talk to him.but i cant control i like him so much i tried alot to tel him the problem but he is not even listening and he is thinking me as an enemy and now i cant tolerate thet feel he is not talking to me,he isbrigs his girlfriend to his home and when ever i think of it i feel that i had done some mistake and so he left me.i dont know wat to do. but i need him i cant live without him.and i even want him to live happily and i know that he likes but i dont know how to tell my brother about my feelings. Hi! actually my problem is very small think but i am taking it as a huge thing i need someones support bcoz i dont feel to share with any of my frnds. actually my problem is “I have a brother and i introduced my frnd to him,after that that girl made my brother like a selfish person,like he stoped thinking of anybody else,and before that (intoduction of girl) he liked me so much, but now he even dont respect my words he brings her to his home,without my permission and my parents after knowing it disliked him,and they stopped me talk to him.but i cant control i like him so much i tried alot to tel him the problem but he is not even listening and he is thinking me as an enemy and now i cant tolerate thet feel he is not talking to me,he isbrigs his girlfriend to his home and when ever i think of it i feel that i had done some mistake and so he left me.i dont know wat to do. but i need him i cant live without him.and i even want him to live happily and i know that he likes but i dont know how to tell my brother about my feelings.

]]> By: shinjini http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-503719 shinjini Sat, 26 Mar 2011 15:34:01 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-503719 i luv a boy he said he too luvs me.but due to a prob he cant be in any relation but he also says he luvs his x gf..i'm very afraid of losing him wat to do??i really luv him and want him..plz do suggest wat shud i do?? i luv a boy he said he too luvs me.but due to a prob he cant be in any relation but he also says he luvs his x gf..i’m very afraid of losing him wat to do??i really luv him and want him..plz do suggest wat shud i do??

]]> By: pinkz http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-486691 pinkz Tue, 11 Jan 2011 17:11:41 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-486691 I have a 2 years relationships with my bf..but we broke up when we came up to 1 year and 4 months.....and then i got a new bf and he dated a girl from Mexico who travelled as a tourist in sweden......and my x liked her so much couz she saw a unique things from him that ive never tell him..... she came back to Mexico but before then my x was trying to say that he still inlove with me and he would get me back to him after 2 months....and then we decided to get back together but i told him not to contact her anymore if he wanted me to get back...and he did it,... after 4 months together with him i suddenly saw the mexican gilrl message in my bf fb but it just a smiley.i was so angry and i lose my self because of my jealousy and i think it is my nature to be jealous so easily......and it takes all energy i have, im trying to be in self but i coulnd help it,,im so easily irrate to him... and then we talked about it that he never contact her and he will never do it....but deep inside me saying he is lying and i dont know what to believe....my jealousy controlling my feelings...he said that i need to trust him.....but how? how can i trust him.....? i love him so much and i dont want to lose him,......help me pls...... >pinkz< I have a 2 years relationships with my bf..but we broke up when we came up to 1 year and 4 months…..and then i got a new bf and he dated a girl from Mexico who travelled as a tourist in sweden……and my x liked her so much couz she saw a unique things from him that ive never tell him…..
she came back to Mexico but before then my x was trying to say that he still inlove with me and he would get me back to him after 2 months….and then we decided to get back together but i told him not to contact her anymore if he wanted me to get back…and he did it,…

after 4 months together with him i suddenly saw the mexican gilrl message in my bf fb but it just a smiley.i was so angry and i lose my self because of my jealousy and i think it is my nature to be jealous so easily……and it takes all energy i have, im trying to be in self but i coulnd help it,,im so easily irrate to him…

and then we talked about it that he never contact her and he will never do it….but deep inside me saying he is lying and i dont know what to believe….my jealousy controlling my feelings…he said that i need to trust him…..but how? how can i trust him…..? i love him so much and i dont want to lose him,……help me pls……

>pinkz<

]]> By: Kat http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-475516 Kat Fri, 26 Nov 2010 04:29:52 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-475516 Soo... Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 years and its long distance relationship, one night he told me he had his 1st kiss along time ago before he met me and of course i havent had my 1st kiss. I thought i would be his first. But now i'm hurt badly. I know it is just jealousy but its terrible. And im suppose to meet him this summer! What should i do? I need help getting over it. My heart is majorly damaged. I just hate hearing the fact that i won't be his first and he loved someone else. Also when he talks to other girls i hate it!! I feel like he likes them more than me because i'm not skinny or beautiful like them.and we also have major problems with fighting but its always about why he never called me or text messaged me. Seriously we haven't talked in 3 weeks from this day and i don't know why, he won't answer calls or text messages. I feel really hurt, he says he is busy with school and work which i believe is true, but trust me i know he is the one guy forever because when i hear his voice i get butterflies and when i say goodbye its like a bomb dropped on my heart until next time i talk to him, and if it helps to solve my problem he has a good reputation of lying to everyone and not listening. Soo… Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 years and its long distance relationship, one night he told me he had his 1st kiss along time ago before he met me and of course i havent had my 1st kiss. I thought i would be his first. But now i’m hurt badly. I know it is just jealousy but its terrible. And im suppose to meet him this summer! What should i do? I need help getting over it. My heart is majorly damaged. I just hate hearing the fact that i won’t be his first and he loved someone else. Also when he talks to other girls i hate it!! I feel like he likes them more than me because i’m not skinny or beautiful like them.and we also have major problems with fighting but its always about why he never called me or text messaged me. Seriously we haven’t talked in 3 weeks from this day and i don’t know why, he won’t answer calls or text messages. I feel really hurt, he says he is busy with school and work which i believe is true, but trust me i know he is the one guy forever because when i hear his voice i get butterflies and when i say goodbye its like a bomb dropped on my heart until next time i talk to him, and if it helps to solve my problem he has a good reputation of lying to everyone and not listening.

]]> By: amanda http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-475012 amanda Tue, 23 Nov 2010 14:20:53 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-475012 I am in a four year relationship and general I'm not a jealous person. But a few years back I had a threesome with my boyfriend and best friend(which is a chic). Since then I got pregnant and had my son that is now 21 months. She also had a baby(it not his and didn't think it was.) The problem is she has lost a lot of weigh and I haven't. My boyfriend keep tell me that he wish I lose the weight. I tryed I can't seem to lose. Well she is my best friend so I. Invited her over for thanksgiving but now I m wondering if he is going to be checking her out or thinking about her. It just really bothering. I think if I loss the weigh I wouldn't think of that to much but what can I do right now. Pls help thank you I am in a four year relationship and general I’m not a jealous person. But a few years back I had a threesome with my boyfriend and best friend(which is a chic). Since then I got pregnant and had my son that is now 21 months. She also had a baby(it not his and didn’t think it was.) The problem is she has lost a lot of weigh and I haven’t. My boyfriend keep tell me that he wish I lose the weight. I tryed I can’t seem to lose. Well she is my best friend so I. Invited her over for thanksgiving but now I m wondering if he is going to be checking her out or thinking about her. It just really bothering. I think if I loss the weigh I wouldn’t think of that to much but what can I do right now. Pls help thank you

]]> By: Nikki http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-459828 Nikki Tue, 31 Aug 2010 00:29:21 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-459828 Ok, so I have read the initial article and all of the following comments below and let me first say....hearing all of you talk about your jealously issues makes menot feel so alone. Not sure how many of you guys got replies but this reply is to everyone since Ive read a couple really sad stories that sound similiar to mine. First off, let me tell my story. I am the frist LESBIAN on here i guess. LOK. My gf and i have been together for 2 years. During our first couple monts together (about 4) she cheated on me. I was devistated but after some talking I took her back. Now lets flash forward a year and a half....although we are not perfect my gf has done everything in her power to make me feel secure about her previous cheating. I on the other hand cant stop thinking she is doing something bad...whether it be a few comments on Facebook....or a text from someone she hasnt spoken to in a long time...and the most recent that caused our break up...she got a dance from a stripper when we were at the club and I freaked out! Looking back that was the most stupid thing I could have done...I am trying very hard to get back in her good graces but I have been doing these "little bitch sessions" about jealous topics for a long time and she is fed up. After reading all article above....i have to come to terms with..My gf isnt trying to cheat on me. If she wanted to...she would have already. The other portion that I think all of us need to look at a little more closely is our own insecurities. The article made such a great point about the fact our mates are with us BECAUSE THEY WANT TO BE! Not because someone is forcing them. If we all sit back and really think about that, we should hopefully appreciate what we have and stop fussing so much. Please pray for me that me and my gf get back together. I am heartbroken and I am trying so hard to give her some space and allow her to come back to me on her terms. Thanks for reading :) Ok, so I have read the initial article and all of the following comments below and let me first say….hearing all of you talk about your jealously issues makes menot feel so alone. Not sure how many of you guys got replies but this reply is to everyone since Ive read a couple really sad stories that sound similiar to mine.

First off, let me tell my story. I am the frist LESBIAN on here i guess. LOK. My gf and i have been together for 2 years. During our first couple monts together (about 4) she cheated on me. I was devistated but after some talking I took her back. Now lets flash forward a year and a half….although we are not perfect my gf has done everything in her power to make me feel secure about her previous cheating. I on the other hand cant stop thinking she is doing something bad…whether it be a few comments on Facebook….or a text from someone she hasnt spoken to in a long time…and the most recent that caused our break up…she got a dance from a stripper when we were at the club and I freaked out! Looking back that was the most stupid thing I could have done…I am trying very hard to get back in her good graces but I have been doing these “little bitch sessions” about jealous topics for a long time and she is fed up.

After reading all article above….i have to come to terms with..My gf isnt trying to cheat on me. If she wanted to…she would have already. The other portion that I think all of us need to look at a little more closely is our own insecurities. The article made such a great point about the fact our mates are with us BECAUSE THEY WANT TO BE! Not because someone is forcing them. If we all sit back and really think about that, we should hopefully appreciate what we have and stop fussing so much. Please pray for me that me and my gf get back together. I am heartbroken and I am trying so hard to give her some space and allow her to come back to me on her terms. Thanks for reading :)

]]> By: miss buttons http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-457409 miss buttons Tue, 17 Aug 2010 23:35:14 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-457409 what about the fact that, I do think that im the best for him, I am very secure of myself therefore I am still very jalous and posessive. I always think that men , enven if they are in love with a girl they will cheat eventually with a discusting chick ! just because they are based on impluse. Im always on his case, even if I know he loves me I always have a feeling he is gonna fuck up! what should I do?? what about the fact that, I do think that im the best for him, I am very secure of myself therefore I am still very jalous and posessive.
I always think that men , enven if they are in love with a girl they will cheat eventually with a discusting chick ! just because they are based on impluse.
Im always on his case, even if I know he loves me I always have a feeling he is gonna fuck up!
what should I do??

]]> By: Friddo http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-452203 Friddo Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:47:08 +0000 http://www.lifespy.com/2007/how-to-control-your-jealousy/#comment-452203 Hey guys have read all your posts and in a way it has madee feel slot better knowing that I'm not the only one getting so jealous my gf is amazing iv been dating her for almost 9 months I read an article on abusive men and the signs of one match to what I'm like it scares me a hell of alot I would never want to hurt her but when I get jealous a rage overcomes me and it's really hard to control :S iv never hurt my gf but I'm really scared it will happen one day I wish I could just get a grip Hey guys have read all your posts and in a way it has madee feel slot better knowing that I’m not the only one getting so jealous my gf is amazing iv been dating her for almost 9 months I read an article on abusive men and the signs of one match to what I’m like it scares me a hell of alot I would never want to hurt her but when I get jealous a rage overcomes me and it’s really hard to control :S iv never hurt my gf but I’m really scared it will happen one day I wish I could just get a grip

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