
First of all, you really shouldn’t be having this problem. It’s unfair to your partner who completely trusts you. Jealousy will kill a relationship unless you put an end to it before it becomes your disease. You know why, because jealous people tend to behave badly being misled by their fears – you start saying things you don’t mean and start having suspicious thoughts you actually believe in. Save your relationship by controlling your jealousy. Start with these suggestions.
Deal with your insecurity. No matter how much you project your confidence, being jealous implies that you are insecure about yourself. It means that you have fears that someone is better than you are, and it scares the hell out of you. What you need to do is to realize that every person is unique. Don’t go comparing yourself to everybody because that’s not a good way to feel good about yourself. Just focus on your own assets, and your achievements and you’re sure to get ahead of things. Be secure in the fact that you’re the hottest being on earth – proof? Your partner chose you among all the others.
Value the virtue of trust. Trusting a person could be very difficult, especially if we’ve been betrayed in the past. But get over your issues on trust because unless you do, your partner will suffer your lack of security. Let go of your fears because you can’t do anything if you worry about it anyway. It’ll just keep you paranoid. Loving someone means giving him your trust, so that he can give you his trust too.
Love and trust go hand in hand. Don’t push your boyfriend away with your jealousy. If you know in your heart that your boyfriend is truly faithful, then it is just right that you trust him not to break your heart. The two of you can always talk when something starts to bother you so that it doesn’t evolve into a jealous fit.
5 Responses
amanda
March 20th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
1hmmm what if none of that works though?
hamza khan
May 11th, 2008 at 7:17 pm
2hello dear
i just to tell you three yeras before i lost my gilfreind in london the reason is my jealousy,she from brazil and me from afghanistan,we brought up in diffrent cultures.i love her to much.but i cant control my jealousy some time make me sick.now after three years found her in web site in brazil.i wish to try contact her and make plan for marrage but still i worry about my jealousy.and can take the resk.may same happen to me again
you give me suggestion what can i do next.to ignore her or to contact her .she was my best lover in world.one time i did she was.
from last three years cant out from my brain
i dont know what can i do next? Hamza
sweetheart
June 16th, 2008 at 9:24 pm
3i’m in a long term relationship right now, 6 years t be exact. have a problem with my boyfriend because of his non stop jelousy. our relationship was on and off hen we were in college. it felt like hell, i’m being embarassed by my friends, i cant go out with my old friends because he was jelous. and now it comes to a point that i want it to end. im so tired. when we broke up, and then after 3 months we get back together, thought hw would change but still he’s tha same. i want to move on, find someone who can trust me and not be insecure of me. but there is one thing im scared at,is that will there be a man who can love me the way he did. i have mixed emotions. please help me..
Sam
July 23rd, 2008 at 10:38 am
4Dear Sweetheart,
I am dearly sorry to hear of your deliema. I am telling you this because I feel as though your thoughts have saved my realationship with my girlfriend. We have dated for a year and i am a very jealous person. I have been hurt in the past so its been difficult but I have become trusting and things are going very well. I hope things have worked out. Thank you.
rod
July 27th, 2008 at 7:09 pm
5hi! your advices sounds really works though, what about in my case coz right now i actually felt it towards a guy who i loved maybe most now… he had been dating with one of my colleague itself in flat… i am not deserving to be his somelike relation with him coz i am gay but i felt the way woman feel if u know that he was sneaking someone within your place, it actually hurts me a lot but still i can’t stop loving him… he never says anything if i told him so… i am going to be crazy perhaps that is why i am asking your favor whatz the right thing to do. shall I moved out
from our circle so that i won’t see him anymore? please bear with me Thanks!
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