Cut the Crap

Ever wondered if he’s telling the truth about what he did Friday night? He told you he just slept all night but you see him Sunday morning and he’s got bags under his eyes. Don’t call it quits just yet. He could be telling the truth, or he could be pulling your leg – again. Men are great liars, yes, we are. There are ways to check if he’s telling the truth or not. A couple of things we can’t fool are woman’s intuition and perception to detail.

Lies are in the eyes. This is a pretty popular trick. Less eye contact implies that he doesn’t want to be seen through. You want to see if he’s getting nervous as he says the lie. Observe unusual blinking of the eyes. That is associated to lying. Here’s a post on Visual Accessing Cues – telling if a person is making things up or not by the way their eyes shift.

Voice. Usually the volume of speaking is louder when a person tells a lie. This is because he wants to assert his “argument”. There could also be some throat-clearing.

Fidgeting. Fidgeting is different from hand gestures. Usually when someone speaks from experience, speech comes with gestures naturally. But when a formulated lie is being told, the person usually stands still to control nervousness or stammering. For some people though, weird fidgeting clearly tells you when the guy is lying.

Arms and feet. When a person becomes defensive they usually cross their arms. A lying person wants to escape an awkward and uncomfortable situation when he’s being confronted. Check his toes if he is angling away from you as if he’s ready to escape or if he takes a standing position as if he looks shameful. Squirming could mean anxiety. And he wouldn’t be anxious if he’s telling the truth, right?

Grin. Sporting that sheepish grin? Look at the mouth, and see if you can see the teeth. A forced smile will not reveal teeth.

If he exhibits most of these, chances are you might have a lot to talk about. Still, we have to disclaim that these are foolproof ways to tell is a person is lying.

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