Psyche yourself up before you join the hunt. You’re looking for someone who won’t break your heart this time around, so don’t waste your time hanging out with the boys in a stripper club, unless you just want a taste of the good old days to help yourself get out of the depression.

It’s okay to feel nervous when you’re having the first date again. Your date is probably nervous too. Before you pick up your date, face the mirror and remind yourself that you’re hot and funny. Don’t worry about that bald spot, either. Some women might actually find that cute.

If you think you’re not ready for romance just yet, go out with some female friends whom you feel comfortable with. Having a cup of coffee with a female colleague can help you become more comfortable around women. The next time you’re actually in a real date, you won’t feel as uneasy.

Don’t push it. Opening oneself to love when one has been hurt so badly could take some time. Don’t be pressured into dating. Friends might encourage you nonstop to go out and have a few beers but you don’t have to. Give yourself time to heal so that when a special person comes along, you can give yourself completely to her.

Scared of intimacy? Don’t be. Feel free to share yourself with someone new. If you have found someone you feel you can be close with, give it a shot. Don’t let the divorce leave you frustrated and miserable. Remember, you can have a new life, and a new love.