Comments on: Relationships: Scared of Commitment?

By: lizzie

lizzie — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 22:59:20 +0000

I feel the exact same way, im going out with a junior in high school (im a freshman) and when i first started liking him, i was really hooked. now that we know we like eachother and decided to lable ourselves as ‘going out’ im finding so many immature things that i find wrong with him! I really want to return the love, but how can I do this if all i can see is the bad and not the good? It kills me, because I really like him and at the same time all I can think about is how to avoid him. I only just found out about my being scared of commitment this week, and it scares the life out of me. I always thought i was ready, and now I know im not and i dont want to be unprepared. It’s so scary, I wish i knew what to do and how to get rid of my problem.

By: Betty

Betty — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 00:51:02 +0000

i feel the same way. i say i like the person and when i start going out with them i start to tell my self somethings wrong and that i dont liek them anymore. its so werd and annoying. i want to be happy but im the problem. i also cant stand when someone shows that they really like me telling me things liek your amazing beucase that just drives me farther away. i get som cofused and half the time i feel like im just saying tings and not mening it like they do and that makes me sad because i want to love someone just as much they love me. i dont know when this will stop but i have a fear of relationship lables. even tho its just a lable. i know i like him and he likes me but i always feel im so confused and that i can never like the person back fully for some reason. its so hard thats why i hate dating. its weird and then at times i would say omg i cant live without them they mean so much to me and then the next day i would lose all the feeelings . its a roller coaster ride

By: Eliza

Eliza — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 02:58:56 +0000

This kind of helped, but yes I see where you’re coming from. I am really scared of relationships, boyfriend/girlfriend labels, commitment. I don’t know why I would think I am mature for them. However I’m scared that I will lose interest fairy quick, the longer I keep this somewhat relationship going, if we stop seeing eachother it will feel as though I wasted my time. But he say’s it makes sense. If I like him. He like’s me. We are labeled “in a relationship”. I have no idea why but it’s stressing me out, just a label. I don’t think I’ll ever be prepared for one. Maybe I will be in my 20’s.

By: Melanie.

Melanie. — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 03:54:43 +0000

I’m scared of commitment, I can like someone and the second they tell me that it’s mutual, I can’t handle it and for some reason I’m convinced I don’t like them anymore. Temporarily when friends address my problem, I see sense, but I don’t really feel it’s a problem I can just overcome. It’s so difficult, and unnecessary. I do want a relationship, a lasting one, but I can’t seem to allow myself to. These thoughts just enter my mind, then it clouds over and I can’t think or work out how I feel for the guy even if I know I liked them before they told me. It’s really confusing and difficult to deal with, and I don’t know how I can possibly overcome it.