22 Jun
Posted by Alex as Behavior and Ethics, Communication, Sex and Relationships

Here’s another set of tips for women out there.
Ok, so you’re young, hot and gorgeous.. so why hasn’t that guy you met last night called or texted you yet?
Every now and then we get to see (or if we get lucky) meet, a cute, sweet guy. Almost every girl knows how hard it is to meet a real keeper these days; someone who’s got it all – beauty and brains plus an ounce of sensitivity. In a time of crisis like this one, what’s a girl to do when that guy isn’t calling or texting yet yet?
Wait. Don’t think he’ll contact you the minute you give him your number. Some guys play it cool, so they’re not so much in a hurry to contact you. Just leave your phone alone for a while and let it ring by itself. Don’t will it.
Recall. Think. Why would he call? Just because he asked for your number last night doesn’t mean he’ll actually call you. Reality is, some guys just ask for a girl’s number in order to be polite. No offense but hey, it happens! Come on, as if you’ve never given a fake number to a guy who was not cute enough for you! If you met him at some party and he was sort of drunk, he might have forgotten where he put his phone. Or maybe he was too drunk to tell you he has a girlfriend. Or maybe he’s still drunk right now. Are we waiting still? Really?
Rethink. Okay so he was a perfect gentleman last night and really seemed sincere when he asked for your number and told you he’ll call you in the morning. If he contacts you then he keeps his word. If he doesn’t, he’s a liar. Give the verdict when you get the call… or when no call ever comes.
If, at the end of the day there’s still no call…. he’s probably calling somebody else. Get over it. You’ll meet a cuter guy next weekend.
Let go. Literally. Let go of the friggin’ phone. The guy will call when he wants and you simply can’t wait for your phone to ring all day. Your phone has the ability to ring even if you’re not touching it. So take your day’s shower, eat that lunch and go through your office work because the phone can ring whether or not it’s near your face.
The truth is, a guy who likes a girl will call that girl. You can’t just call him and say “Hey, I’m this girl you met last night and I was wondering why you haven’t called me yet…” because (do I really have to explain this?)does that sound at all like you? There are guys out there who’ll exhaust your phone. Let’s just wish he wasn’t that guy who got your fake number.
Again, thanks to Anj for sharing these thoughts.
One Response
jasmine t
October 10th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
1Hi… really frustrated and and appreciate this advice…
Im in my early 20s and frankly can’t figure out dating etiquette with young american men. what if you hung out with someone as a friend a few times (exchanging calls casually) but both parties were apparently attracted to one another. What if he finally kisses you passionately goodnight, something you were hoping for, says he’ll see you soon with no mention of call or future date, then drops off the face of the earth?
Did I kiss him too soon? Is it most likely personal? Is he just busy?
I hate the anxious feeling of expecting a call, but its been almost a week. Everything about that kiss was good and its not like he doesn’t know how to call me, as he has a few times prior.
What’s up!?
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