Career is important to all of us. To some, it’s even the top priority. And in this age when women are highly empowered, being on top of the corporate ladder is definitely something they have and should have in their agenda. Nevertheless, women’s success in their career generates criticism. The critics seem to find an indirect proportion to success in work and success in homemaking. The analysis goes that women who are on top of their work cannot balance it with their family needs.

While it does make sense that a person who has devoted so much time for work may not have enough time left for anything else, it is unfair to assume that women who can go up are not good mothers or wives.

First off all, perhaps there is a need to define balance. Is there really such a thing?

Second of all, there is nothing negative about a woman who is out to be on top. And don’t feel guilty about it.

Get your career. You deserve it because you worked hard for it. And don’t feel guilty just because you’re a woman. Successful or not, all women go through a series of family problems. So what difference does it make if you’re a boss?

You have to remember that your career also defines who you are, and how you’re able to beat challenges. Being on top means you have gone through a lot of crises and dilemmas. You can use the endurance, patience, and problem-solving skills.

Choose a job you are passionate about. Being a successful mother and wife is also determined by how much happiness you bring to the family. Women who are stressed out by the responsibilities and deliverables at work tend to take the anxiety home with them—making them irritable and unapproachable to their husbands and kids. But if your job makes you happy, you won’t stress over it and therefore, your time off work can be entirely devoted to your family.