Coping with a Cancelled Wedding Engagement
Should’ve written about this two months ago when there were a lot of happy wedding stories and a few tragic breakups. So many articles have been written about how to say yes to an engagement, and the happy-ever-after that follows it. But what happens when an engagement goes all wrong and even worse – cancelled? Facing the reality of this possibility could just be the toughest point in a bride-to-be’s (or groom-to-be’s) life. Here are a few tips on how you can get your groove back on track after.
For one thing, you have to accept that you can’t just dig a hole and live there. Just like any regular less tragic problems, you can use the care of other people to cheer you up. TV can’t lift your spirit. Locking yourself up in your room will only make you focus on the pain. What you need is to divert your attention to other important things like work, and family, and yourself.
One of the hardest things you have to go through after a cancelled wedding date is having to call everybody and tell them no wedding is going to happen. You don’t have to do this. Before you lift that receiver, remember that people are most likely going to ask “What happened?”. So if you can’t face this question just yet, remember that you can always ask someone else to do this for you.
Don’t go through the story over and over again. People can only hold back for so long and they are going to want the whole explanation. When you’re ready to tell the saga, tell it to an audience consisting of your closest family and friends — people who are most likely to ask you what happened. Tell the story once so you won’t have to repeat your tragedy over and over again.
August 4, 2008 Monday at 3:54 pm