Comments on: Family: How to Deal with Favoritism among Children

By: Laurie

Laurie — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 02:05:16 +0000

Agree with Linda. Parents who favor one sibling during their life should be expected to act consistently with that in their will as well. Painful as it is, at some point you need to acknowledge that you may never receive fair treatment or equal standing with your siblings, and if that’s not acceptable to you, you may want to consider cutting the ties. Madonna said in a song that you can only ask for something once or twice. If, after that, you don’t get it, it was never yours in the first place. Just as you would end a marriage that causes too much pain, you should permit yourself to cut ties with blood relatives who do the same. Don’t hang on hoping for the acknowledgement to come at the last minute. It hardly ever does.

By: bea

bea — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:57:35 +0000

thanks a lot for these.it had helped me so much for my speech in class.

By: Linda

Linda — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 06:34:50 +0000

Thanks for the tip. I’m sure you’re right that children who get over favoritism issues in their youth are happier and healthier overall. Of course, in some cases the favoritism goes to an unhealthy extreme though and stretches long into adulthood, right up to the death of the parent and acted out in the will. In those cases, the best way to get out of the ordeal is simply to cut ties early on before tha happens, so the absurdity of it can no longer hurt you. Trust me, that is what is best in these cases.