There’s pretty, there’s sexy, then there’s intriguing. Part of the charisma you have is what makes you intriguing. If you want to get people under your spell, you better have that charm about you that’s powerful enough to bewitch everyone. And leave them wanting more.

Yes, you want to be friends with everyone and you’re just Mr. Popularity. But don’t be telling people everything about you. Stop divulging stories about you especially when you weren’t asked. Only tell people what they have to know about you and nothing more.

Whenever you meet a stranger, socialize, but don’t confide. The best rule to live by when it comes to revealing personal details is a show-me-yours-and-I’ll-show-you-mine principle. Stick to neutral topics when you’re on the first date so don’t tell your date what perfume you’re wearing.

There’s mystery, and there’s shutting people out. Don’t overdo it. Arouse their interest without being a snob. As your relationship grows, you can let her in on more intimate details but hold back a bit to sustain charisma.

Now you can’t stop people poring over your life when you get too interesting, and sometimes the best way out of it is to give them what they want. It’s what celebrities do when they’re being pestered by paparazzi. So behave like a superstar and share some 411 about you but draw the line on things you can open up, and those you should keep private.