Comments on: How to Deal with a Controlling Partner

By: Ty

Ty — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 18:35:11 +0000

i am not a controlling person but some of the girls that i date belive that i am controling because i set standards for my self and what kind of women i get. the kind of women that i am looking for is the kind of women that do not drink or do drugs and do not cheat that is all that i ask. so when a girl that i fall in love with and she falls in love with me. well i could not say it is all of her fault it is part of mine to for knowing wat i am getting myself into and just thinking that things will change. i have a record of dating women that enjoy to drink but when they start dating me i do not know so i dont say nothing well when i find out i will give them a choice, EITHER you stop drinking or you lose me. so they stop and then shortley afterwards when they decide they want to go back to wat they used to do they blame me for chanding who they were and that i was contronling cause i did not let them go out and have there fun but i belive if that person truly love you than they could change little things like that. i change when i notice i am doing something that the girl i am dating dont like but you dont see me saying stop controlling me you are being controlling i think that women belive that only guys are controling well from all of the relationships that i have been in the girls expect to have all of the fun and expect you to sit at home. SO i belive that control swings both way and you women need to see that.

By: Cheska

Cheska — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 07:56:26 +0000

as proven by your 1st husband there are guys who can be trusted. If your 2nd husband keeps on lying to you then your relationship is not good for you. You have to trust your husband, but at the same time, if he also has to deserve it. If he still dates other women now that he’s already married, then he doesn’t deserve your trust, nor your love.

By: Tim Clark

Tim Clark — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 00:35:24 +0000

the real problem is that some people don’t seem to understand that letting go of control will not only make for a better relationship but will also make you happier

By: Tresa

Tresa — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 19:38:35 +0000

Controlling a partner may be a problem with a relationship you are having and yet if you are with someone else it may not be a problem for you. I am enately a little insesure but I was married to a wonderful man for 22 years that had the freedom to be late from work, to hunt and fish with friends, who had two different careers and had so much freedom to develope himself as he returned to school. There never seemed to be this jealousy or threat of him leaving because I truely trusted him. Then he died and I married a few times after that and noticed the men I picked had a tendency to violate my trust with them right off the get go. I once had a therapist that said there is no such thing as jealousy as there is that people who place you in a position of being jealous then there is anger and hurt not jealousy and depending on the partner they can make you insecure because there are just un tustworthy people. My last husband was caught in a multitude of lies and he would say that because I get mad he feels he has to lie. So he passes the buck. But, in reality any woman would get mad if you have dinner on and her husband is late and seen by friends at a local bar with another woman on his arm. Is that jealousy on my part or indignation for being disrespected. In other words the average person that is controlling perhaps is that way because of the untrustworthy person she is with so which comes first the chicken or the egg? The control or the mistrustful behvior?