During arguments, how do you deal with a child who talks back at you? Talking back usually starts at the onset of teenage stage when kids start exploring their independence. Teens are irritable and sensitive. That’s why they are often difficult, especially when they’re angry.

While a two-way communication is important, a kid should know that there is a proper and respectful way to argue. And there’s a need to discipline them to make them realize that talking back is an attitude which is not acceptable to you.

Teens usually try new things on experiment so they’d know which things they can get away with. The first time your teen talks back, make it very clear that it is not OK. Let it pass the first time as she probably did not mean to be rude, but if talking back suddenly becomes often, take action and talk to her. Talking back quickly turns into a habit.

Teens learn and unlearn things based on what they see from adults. Set a good example by holding a respectful argument with your own parents. If your kid sees you talk back to your parent without respect then they’ll think they can also talk to you that way.

Reward good behavior. Motivate and encourage good behavior with praises and with incentives. Tell her when other people comment on her respectful and polite ways so she’ll be convinced that she’s doing the right thing.

To prevent future arguments, make sure that your teen knows your rules. Discuss rules on curfew, allowance, dating, and your expectations in school. That way, conflicts can be prevented. To make your rules even more serious, set consequences for every rule that’s broken.