Relationships: Moving In with a Partner

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A lot of my friends are either moving in with their partners or getting hitched. Either way, it’s still an issue of sharing one roof, and more or less, on bed. Sharing one roof is surely one of your future plans you want to do with your partner, but the thing is, he or she’s already asking you now and you don’t know if you’re ready. Need help on deciding? Consider these points. Ah, the bliss of living together. Moving in with your partner will change your lifestyle. Are you up for it?

You love each other and you know your mate enough to share a room. But before you leave your own apartment, think it over. Do you want to move in together because of pressure? Are you looking forward to living together because having a roommate means you’ll have someone to split the bills with? Or do you love this person so much that you want to wake up every morning with that person by your side?

The level of commitment is sure to rise up. Living together means you’ll have to care for him or her when your partner’s got the flu, and it also means that one way or another you’re going to cook for the other when he or she comes home late from work. You’ll also have to do both of your laundry sometimes and take messages when the other’s busy. Oh, and sometimes you’ll have to wash the dishes after meals once in a while.

When you move in together you will face issues which will test your partnership. One of which is financial. How do you split the rent? Do you divide the rent plus the bills according to your respective salaries or do you feel that your partner should pay for everything since it was your mate’s own idea to move in anyway? Freeloading is never a good thing. Good credit is important among roommates so make sure you’re both very responsible with money.

Who will do the chores? Yes, it sounds fun to cook for him or her but it gets old when you have to do it every meal time. If both of you have a problem with doing house chores, maybe you’re better off living in another house.

Are you excited to live with this person? Remember how much you love your apartment and how you used to think you were so lucky to have found it in the first place? If you’re going to move out, you’ll be saying goodbye to your apartment, with the risk that if (and it’s a big IF) you breakup with your partner after you move in together, you will have to look for another unit.

2 thoughts on “Relationships: Moving In with a Partner”

  1. IT JUST MOVED IN WITH MY GIRLFRIEND AND I FEEL OVERWHELMED AND TRAPPED! WE SPEND LESS TIME TOGETHER THAN WHEN WE LIVED SEPERATELY. I THINK I GOT ROOKED! WATCH OUT, IT COULD BE A TRAP! OR, MAYBE I JUST WASN’T READY AND CAVED TO THE PRESSURE.

  2. I just moved into an apartment with my girlfriend of five years. It’s actually been great. We haven’t killed each other yet. I think the most important things are logistical like finances and chores and things like that. If you are in a serious relationship, being around each other shouldn’t bother you! Finances, chores, grocery shopping, etc. Those things can cause rifts though. Make sure to work things like that out before making the move.

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