With the risk of LifeSpy being a man’s blog, I went about bugging female friends for a piece of their minds regarding a few things. And one of the favorite topics of conversation over coffee - relationships. So let me share you one of the fruits of our discussion.

We can be overprotective, possessive and territorial a lot of times. Probably we never really evolved from being cavemen with clubs. If you trust your boyfriend, it’s only fair that you get his trust too. This is why it is better to know early on if he is capable of valuing your trust before you take your relationship to the next level.

Have you ever caught your boyfriend reading your planner? Yes, you share a bed. But some things are just off-limits. If you trust him enough to never ever leaf through his planner even when you saw him taking the number of a hot officemate, then it’s just right that he doesn’t nose around your private things.

What’s the first thing he says when he sees you out with an attractive guy? Does he turn green like the Incredible Hulk? Does he instantly assume you’re cheating on him and throws you dirty looks? Or does he patiently ask who the person was so he will know why you were meeting with the stranger? You’ll know if your partner trusts you when he lets you enjoy friendly relationships with other people without throwing a tantrum over it. But yeah, we all have a jealousy gene.

Has he ever called you a liar? At one point within an argument wherein he’s probing where you’ve been all night after coming home late, has he ever called you a liar when you told him you’ve been working late? If the answer to these questions is YES, then he is not only insulting your honesty, but he’s also commenting on your capability and motivation to spend more time working because apparently he’d rather think you were out fooling around.